Prior to accepting an invitation to a holiday celebration, take some time to discuss some of your child’s challenges with the party’s host. Offering a heads-up about your child and his/her challenges will make it easier on all and won’t blind-side a busy host. Mention the ideas and strategies you will be using to ensure that your child enjoys the party as much as everyone else. Your host might have additional suggestions for your child’s success. If you sense your host back-peddling on the invitation, you may choose to reconsider if “this” is the party for your whole family.
Try to have a special safe space or room available for your child to retreat to for a quiet “away-from-the-party” experience.
- Set the lights low
- Provide a soft, comfortable place for your child to sit
- TV or DVD player option to watch favorite movies
- Remember to have someone check frequently for your child’s safety
Before arriving at the party, create a reasonable time-table for how long you will stay.
- Use countdown visuals and a timer so your child knows there is an end to this activity
- If your child is doing well when the time expires, you can consider asking the child if he/she wants to stay longer
- Or, you may be better off leaving earlier on a positive note
Sensory Survival Kit
You may not have the luxury of a safe space, but a sensory survival kit can be just as handy. Consider some of these items.
- Noise cancelling headphones to listen to favorite music on a music device
- Sensory fidget toy
- Comfy blanket or stuffed toy
- Soft pajamas for later
Don’t assume your party host will have activities to entertain your child. Fill a backpack with fun activities.
- Favorite DVDs
- A new toy to discover
- Hand-held game system
- Cause-effect toy
We all love holiday food. Make sure your child has food to enjoy if he/she doesn’t join you at the dinner table.
- Bring a holiday table-cloth as a picnic blanket
- Have a fun holiday no-spill drink container and napkins
- Include several food options and snacks your child enjoys
- Bring a container of bite-sized desserts
- Wet wipes for sticky fingers
A little preparation for your child before arriving at a party might make this a successful event for everyone. Keep in mind, you are a guest. If your plans don’t go right, don’t overstay your welcome. Sometimes baby-steps and small time increments are the best ways to start introducing your child to festive social events. Don’t be discouraged if all doesn’t go well on your first or second attempt. If you have any additional suggestions, I’d love to hear your comments below.