How to Avoid an Emotional Meltdown
Parents, teachers and therapists can help by recognizing the emotions and offering empathy when behaviors escalate. De-escalation is the key. By learning about the child’s sensory issues and behavioral triggers we can begin to recognize the signs beforehand; and thereby help the child regulate and avoid an emotional meltdown.
- If and when emotions become overwhelming to the child, try to acknowledge those feelings and not stop them from being expressed. Tell the child that when he cries it is caused by a feeling and that it will pass like a dark cloud. The sun will come out again, even though it feels like the sky is falling. Help him learn to take a few slow deep breaths when he first begins to feel upset.
- In our creative arts therapy groups or in any other social skills or therapeutic groups, we can address these issues both in neutral times, when there is no upset, as well as, when a child in the group starts to have difficulties. We can praise the children when we see them self-regulating well and we can offer mirroring for when we notice that negative behaviors are escalating.
Challenge: A child may start banging the table and fidgeting, so we need to recognize this behavior, whether out of frustration or another sensory need, and take it as a “sign”.
- We may reflect back to the child verbally, “I see you are banging the table Johnny, sometimes it is hard to stay in our seats…. And you are doing so well…..” Or perhaps non-verbally, bang along with the child and create a playful interchange. (I have offered clay or model magic and that seems to work wonders for frustration control.)
However, that banging on the table could have in fact been a sensory need to move, or hear sound, or just feel the table against his hands. We may not always get it right, but we are still recognizing the need. In any case, as we get to know the children in our classes or groups we can distinguish their needs, emotions and behaviors.
Taking breaks and using sensory toys and art materials may help a child regulate when frustration levels seem overwhelming within the group. When a child needs that break, have an aide work with them for a set amount of time a little bit away from the group; not leaving the room entirely unless necessary. Then allow that child to slowly rejoin the activity when ready and then praise them for their efforts.