Another year has passed, and now we start our journey through the next. This time of year many are considering their New Year’s resolutions. Some will make them happen, and some will once again make plans we never seem to follow through on.
This past year for me, personally, has been a whirlwind. I have made new discoveries about myself, my abilities, and what I want my life to look like. I have learned more about my ADHD and how I can help others through my own experience by writing with Special-ism.com and ADHD Coaching, which has been extremely rewarding. I have seen my children grow and become more alive with changes I have made in how I parent and how I live. I have learned to love them more, and appreciate every smile, giggle, and story they have. I have also learned how to appreciate their hurts and disappointments, and how to better show them support and love so they can believe in themselves.
This whirlwind has not been filled with only joy. I have been subject to what feels like a life time’s worth of hurt, confusion, disappointment, and challenges. My will and motivation put to a constant test. Burdened by my own history of impulsiveness and other ADHD related traits, and climbing the road blocks put out by others who become insecure with me finding a strong foot hold in becoming the man I know I am. Going through loosing relationships because of discovering their unhealthy nature, and the fear of having to build new ones.
This is where I take time out to look over the last year and reflect. Not to dwell on what can’t be changed, and not to judge myself for some poor decisions or falling off course of my intended path. No, I reflect to gain a clear picture of where I am. So that I can choose a path in the new year based on reality. Based on truth.
A New Year, A New Beginning
One of the great things about one year ending, and another year beginning, is that it offers a kind of reset. Now, I know that just because January 1st roles around that history is not wiped clean, but it does naturally make for a good time to set new goals.
By spending some time in reflection, I can look at what went well in my life over the last year, and the successes I’ve had. I can take note of how my contribution to the world of ADHD management has impacted people, and the new relationships I have made with people of similar passions. I can also take notice of things that did not go as planned, or just plain didn’t work. This is my opportunity to reassess my ADHD management, and decide on any changes. This is also a good time to think about how to start adding new things into my life, and decide what will work.
Paying Attention to our Intention
I can’t tell you how many good intentions I have not followed through on in my life. A list of failed intentions is often how I have believed the outside world sees me. This bright potential saturated in a lack of follow through. Gross…
It doesn’t matter if you have ADHD or any other “ism” or not, or if you’re a parent or not, chances are you are not going to make your goal without a clear idea of where you’re going. It’s like driving to a new destination. How many times do we write down the address so we don’t forget, or maybe even jot down directions how to get there? Some of us even use a map now and then. So why is it we don’t put down in writing where we intend to go in life?
Setting the Goal, Making the Journey
I have taken the time to do some reflection, and decided on what to change for a new beginning, and understand that ADHD or not, without keeping our intention at the front of our mind I’m likely to fall off course, and that it’s time to document my mission.
It’s been a while since I read [easyazon-link asin=”0743269519″ locale=”us”]The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People[/easyazon-link] by Stephen Covey, and it will most likely be on my list of rereads for 2013, but one of the things that stick out in that book is the idea of creating a mission statement. This year I plan on updating my personal mission statement and framing it on the wall to be seen daily. I also for the first time plan on creating a family mission statement also to be framed. Mr. Covey writes “This mission statement becomes its [the family’s] constitution, the standard, the criterion for evaluation and decision making. It gives continuity and unity to the family as well as direction. When individual values are harmonized with those of the family, members work together for common purposes that are deeply felt.” For more on creating mission statements, I encourage you to read Stephen Covey’s book. You can also find good resources on line.
It will take input from everyone in my household so that the mission statement includes the values of all of us. A benefit of doing this is that we also have the opportunity to articulate what we truly value in our lives. Respect, love, forgiveness, laughter, joy, and this statement will give us a map on how we plan to get there together. Special-isms and all.
How will your family plan “Mission 2013?”
Covey, Stephen R. [easyazon-link asin=”0743269519″ locale=”us”]The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People[/easyazon-link]. Published by Simon & Schuster, 2004.